If you have ever thought that you have been terrible wronged by someone and you are holding a grudge – this is a problem that is causing you hurt and pain. To release that hurt and pain, you have to forgive the person who has hurt you.
I have been through this experience myself and I will tell you the way I did it. You may need someone to help you but it is necessary to release these painful feelings and move forward and enjoy the life you were meant to live.
I had to forgive members of my family for the hurt I had experienced as a child. Both of my parents have passed so my only way of conversing with them was while meditating. During my meditation session, I took myself back to the age in my childhood when I believed the pain started. The scene was something totally different to where I had lived as a child – the scene was like a Grecian garden with beautiful trees and green grass underfoot and beautiful marble benches to sit on. People were dressed in long flowing clothes.
I had a long conversation with both of my parents and told them how I felt and we talked about many things. After I had gone through everything that I wanted to say – I told them I forgave them both and I would not be visiting them again.
I opened my eyes thinking that this whole scenario had lasted about 15 minutes – can you imagine my surprise when I realized that it was 90 minutes!!
The past is the past, and it can not be changed, the future is just that but it is what you plan to do with it that counts but now is the present and the present is what you give yourself.
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I received this from a friend of mine and I liked it so I thought I would share it with you. The author’s name is at the end. The moral of the story is very good and sometimes we all have to recover from hurt. What are your thoughts? When you take control of your thoughts, you are taking control of your mind and this means you are taking control over your life. If you control your thoughts and emotions and use affirmations and visualization, you can take control. It is like being the director of your own life movie. You visualize it and then it comes to pass. Your dreams become your reality. Every night before going to sleep, allow yourself to mentally run through tomorrow. You will know before hand exactly how your day will unfold. Try it! I am a great believer in goals – written down and placed where you can see them. The same is true for what ever you want. If you have a picture of the car or the house you want – put it on the bathroom mirror, the refrigerator, your computer, your “vision board” or where ever you can constantly see it. This process will direct constant signals to your brain and your thoughts are your belief system. The belief is that this is yours and you are the owner of the car or house. It is only a matter of time before these things will manifest. You must be prepared to change your life and this means constantly working to ensure that you have positive and uplifting thoughts. One of the easiest way to do this is by mixing with positive and happy people! Be happy! I have a great story for you for tomorrow – catch you then. How are you today? Did your day turn out the way you imagined it should or did it become one of those horror days? You can change it – yes, you can!! If you are not getting on with your work mates are you blaming them? If at home, you are not getting on with you partner or spouse, are you blaming them? Life should not be a “blame game.” If you feel something is wrong at your work place or at home, why not make a time to talk to your boss or partner and see if you can solve the problem. Most people hate confrontation – they would rather put up with the situation they are in than try to resolve it. You will complain to your partner about the people at work and then complain to the people at work about your partner. You are talking to the wrong people. If the problem is at home – talk to your partner! If the problem is at work – talk to your boss! When you are ready to talk to the right person, you do not have to be aggressive but you do have to know that you will get the outcome you want. The way to do this is to already have at least one solution to the problem or problems. This way during the discussion – you will probably end up negotiating, and end up getting the best solution for all concerned. Again, visualize what you want the outcome to be before you start the negotiations . Affirm and believe that you will get the results that will improve the situation. Remember – Believe to Achieve!! I received this e mail from a friend – it is long but well worth the read! A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up, She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ‘ Tell me what you see.’ ‘Carrots, eggs, and coffee,’ she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, ‘What does it mean, mother?’ Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water. ‘Which are you?’ she asked her daughter. ‘When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying. Share this message with those people who mean something to you ; to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life. I didn’t want to miss out on the opportunity to brighten someone’s day with this message! May we all be COFFEE!!!!!!! Well, I know this is a bit late but I went out for some retail therapy and time just got away from me – yes – shopping, you either love it or hate it. It is coming closer to that time of year to avoid it. However, today something happened that I did not like. We were in a shop when this mother started screaming at her young child. I really felt like going over to talk to her and help her but I don’t think she would have listened. As a mother, we all should be aware of the damage that you can do to a child if we are constantly putting them down and yelling things like “you are such a stupid little boy.” This is the negative thought that is being impressed on this child’s pathway to his brain. In later life, if he has been told often enough, he will lack confidence and believe that he can not achieve because he has been told that over and over again. I have a rule and I tell it to all my friends who have children. It is – take a big breath in and count to 5 to 10 seconds. This allows you to release some stress and talk to your child calmly. I will admit it is not easy sometimes but discipline in a child’s life is essential. They do not mean to do naughty things sometimes – they are just learning more about life and we are the ones to guide them on the right path. Gotta go – catch you later. I am very fond of Dr. Wayne Dyer’s work maybe you would like to check this out for yourself. “If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.” Andrew Carnegie That is a very powerful statement but first we must know what our goal is. You must be certain that you know what you want. When you know your life purpose, you will be able by thought to achieve all that you desire or visualize. We will take a simple example but this example applies to any goal or goals you want to achieve. If, for example, you want to lose weight – know how much you want to lose -30 pounds and what is the time frame you are allowing yourself. We have done the calculations that we will lose 5 pounds per month – you must be realistic. This is not an impossible amount. You may do better, but at least you know that 5 pounds is achievable per month. Now the math tells us that this will take 6 months. Write it down – at the end of the month 5 pounds – at the end of 6 months – 30 pounds. Now we will break it down even further. Visualize that you have already achieved the goal and what it feels like. Write down what you want to achieve every day and put it in great detail. This lets your subconscious mind know what it has to work on. It is like going into a field of tall grass, you walk through it and suddenly you create a path. If you kept walking through this field on this same path you had created – it would be very visible. This is the same as your thoughts. You must constantly tell yourself what you want to achieve and these thoughts will be like a pathway to your brain. If you want an inspirational day join one of these one day events. Thoughts can move mountains!!!
Well, it is a beautiful day today where I am. Just returned home from coffee with a friend and amongst the things we discussed, was the power of positive thinking. One of the greatest books I have read regard this, is Napoleon Hill’s book – “Think and Grow Rich.” Great title for a book!!! It was first published in 1938. I will just give you a small part of the story. Napoleon Hill wrote the book after studying people and their habits for over twenty years. The power to choose good or bad, health or illness, happiness or sadness is “all in the mind” but he also clearly states that it is your belief system that determines the outcome in your life. One of Napoleon’s challenges was when he discovered his second son, Blair, had been born without ears. His belief was so strong that he stated to himself that his son would learn to speak and would hear. Napoleon then started speaking to his son by placing his lips against the mastoid bone. It was not until years later he found that this was called “bone conduction.” Speaking to his son in this way, he began to transfer to Blair’s mind the desire to speak and hear. Napoleon words to describe this were “desire backed by faith.” During his final months at college, Blair was sent an electronic hearing aid and finally was able to hear and speak. His father had instilled in his son the faith necessary to overcome his disability and to believe that he was no different to anyone else. What his father had accomplished could only be described as a “miracle.” Get this book and study it. Some of the richest men in the world have been influenced by this book – not bad seeing it was written so long ago and still taught by so many. This is a more up to date book from Dr Dyer. Catch you tomorrow with some of the thoughts and ideas about positive thinking.  Well, yesterday I was telling you about going to yoga. I started and was determined to succeed – not only with the yoga but also with the weight loss. I guess you now realized – that what I was actually doing was changing my “mind set”. If I believed that I could do it – I would do it. I went out and bought some DVDs on yoga and every morning without fail I would get up, get my exercising clothes on and start a DVD. I started with a yoga for beginners DVD because I knew how bad my flexibility was. I used the same 30 minute segment for about a week before I would change. Within six months, the weight had gone – I did change my eating habits too, I will admit. As the weight disappeared so my flexibility increased. After about 18 months, I joined a gym – yes, this person who before thought gyms were for exercise freaks – signed up and I still go twice a week. I must admit – I love it. I have a personal trainer. By the way, I have never regained the weight. My whole ideas had changed and you can do that too. All of this was having the belief in myself and constantly doing the same thing every day. OK – if I did miss one day or I ate the wrong thing one day – I didn’t beat myself up about it. This was my thinking pattern regarding eating – there are 3 meals a day, 7 days in a week, therefore 21 meals for the week. If I did the wrong thing for one meal – I tried to get the other 20 right and that is a pretty high percentage of success. If you got that percentage pass mark in you exams at school, you would have been the top student – and that is what you will be now – changing your thoughts, will help change YOU!! I have just picked a selection of DVDs on yoga for beginners and the inflexible that may interest you, Hey I have to go – talk to you tomorrow!!
Every new day is a new beginning! Today is my yoga practice day. Yes – sometimes it would be easy to say “Hey! I don’t want to do this today” but I have only ever done that once in four years. I felt so guilty, that I vowed never to avoid going again. I started yoga over four years ago with the express idea of losing weight – I needed some form of exercise and I thought I would give it a try. I didn’t know much about it – I had only viewed it briefly on TV. I knew nothing about it inter-grating the body, mind and spirit. How would I know that it would lead me further on the path of self improvement? My first yoga practice could well have been my last, except my teacher was insistent that I return the following week. I could not do one asana (position) , my flexibility was non existent and as for the breathing – how could you hold a position and breathe as a yogi at the same time? Yoga breathing is very rhythmical – the amount of time it takes you to breath in, is exactly the same time it takes you breathe out. I was hopeless but one thing I knew – even though I could not do what some of the others were doing, I made myself a promise and I was determined to practice in my own time and improve. Next post I will tell you how I did it. |
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